Manson Mondays

 An excerpt from Mark Manson's self-help book titled, "The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A #@%!" instilled within me a realization I'd never truly considered:

    "When you stop and really think about it, conventional life advice- all the positive and happy self-help stuff we hear all the time- is actually fixating on what you lack. It lasers in on what you perceive your personal shortcomings and failures to already be, and then emphasizes them for you. You stand in front of the mirror and repeat affirmations saying that you're beautiful because you feel as though you're not beautiful already. You follow dating and relationship advice because you feel that you're unlovable already. You try goofy visualization exercises about being more successful because you feel as though you aren't successful enough already.

    Ironically, this fixation on the positive- on what's better, what's superior- only serves to remind us over and over again of what we are not, of what we lack, of what we should have been but failed to be. After all, no truly happy person feels the need to stand in front of the mirror and recite that she's happy. She just is."

That last line hit me like a brick; perhaps because happiness is something I'm seeking to obtain... What hope do I have then? How can I just be happy? 

I'll continue reading this book, and perhaps we can break it down together, should I replace our Motivation Mondays with a new segment?

Mondays Are for Not Giving A #@%!, breaking down Manson's Self Help Book. 

If you'd like to read along with me, consider purchasing his book [Click Photo]: 



My name is Skylan Abraham. I'm a 23-year-old woman with an admiration for all things creative. I am mother to three boys and a fiancée to my best friend Jacob. Art has been a part of my life since I was young, and it'll never NOT be a part of me.

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